Positivity & Forward Thinking

It’s been said many, many times before… The older you get, the more challenges life throws at you. It hit me very recently that life doesn’t get easier. The road we are driving on will continue to get steeper, curvier and narrower. High school was bliss, college was interesting and that “honeymoon” phase a few months after graduation was stressful. All that, however, was nothing. That stress, well, it accumulates. It builds and grows. I am a strong person. I believe that what you project is what you are. If you project strength, you’re more like to actually be strong. It doesn’t mean you can’t have moments of weakness, because we all know everybody is weak at times, but strength will triumph.

About four months ago, I was not in a good place. I am stuck living in a state with little to offer job-wise, let alone jobs that I could actually put on my resume. However, as luck would have it, I got a job as a supervisor in a hotel. Phew! One, yes one, weight was lifted off of my chest. Soon after, I became comfortable with my living situation. Living at home with my parents is definitely not ideal, but I can pay off my loan and save as much money as I can. I was working out 5 times a week and building my endurance as I started to run farther and farther each day, each week.

Then one day I went to the beach with my friend and my old, lingering knee injury resurfaced. I was benched for at least a week. Not long after I get into a head-on accident on my way home from work in the middle of the night. Bruises, staples and 6 hours in the ER later, I was home and on my butt for 5 days.

Is this what we live for? These highs and lows?

Believe it or not, yes. This is exactly what we live for. I have days where it’s hard to swallow. But then I have days where I can’t help but see the best out of every situation. I don’t play a victim! I work harder. If I freak out, I stand up, look in the mirror and tell myself that I’m alive. I’m a role model for my brother, and as much as it sounds corny, I’m going to have to stay strong for him. I guess the message I have for the 4 people that might read this eventually is that you can’t undermine your own strength and determination, because in a world full of unpredictable circumstances, YOU are the only person you really have control over.

Figuring Out What Makes You Happy

This is the problem I am having. It can actually be considered the struggle of an optimist- of a person who tries to pay more attention to the good then the bad- because I’ve always eventually been content with my life. Could this be considered “settling”? I hope not, but it’s possible. I really enjoy making the best of the worst.

Now it’s time for me to do what I want. The BIG commitment. I have to pick a job that may lead to a career. This isn’t just a summer job, but something I will, or at least should, live with for at least a year.

I did the wine tasting thing, it’s fun, but growth in that is very difficult. I think I would like something that involves communications/events/marketing. Let’s see where this takes me, shall we?

When All Else Fails.. Just Be Happy

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There are so many things in this world that can make a person upset, sad or angry. In fact, sometimes, it feels like that’s all there is. And you know what? Shit happens. (Excuse my French.) However, it’s my philosophy that sometimes, you just have to be happy. Pretending to be happy may actually make you happy. It’s an odd feeling, however it works. I’ve known so many people that have gone through VERY rough situations because they kept up a good attitude. The best example of this is my aunt, who managed to fight stage 3/4 cancer for 5 YEARS!

So, when all else fails, be happy!!! There are always worse things and sometimes what you think is a big deal at the time, ends up being just a small bump in the road, depending on how you think about it.

YOU CAN DO IT!

The Value of a Good Walk

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Imagine your drive to work or to school. You recognize the streets, some landmarks and that’s it. Now try walking some of that. I bet you’ll miss the turn, or not recognize the area. This has happened to me. I did it once when I had to walk the 3 miles it was to school because my car broke down. It seemed easy enough to drive, but when I walked, I almost didn’t make the right turn.

When you’re walking, you can absorb almost everything. Slowing the commute down gives more of an appreciation of your surroundings. Things can become more beautiful or even uglier than you thought. It’s really amazing. Try taking a walk now and then. Get outside and soak in your surroundings. You may be surprised.

I did a walk here in my grandparents neighborhood. It’s a little lake community where all the houses are 100% different and the properties are all unique. It’s quite the walk.

Just feeling insightful, that’s all.

In fact, I was 6 feet away from a deer on my last one! Those animals are cute!

Off to My Grandparent’s House I Go

One of the hardest things to remember when life hands you lemons, is to not freak the hell out and stress out about everything. I say this with four years of experience behind me (most people have more experience), that it is so easy to forget that life isn’t all about what you’re supposed to do, it’s about what makes you happy.

This summer, I have been struggling with the thought that I have no more college ahead of me. I am done. I have to get a job, make some money, move out of my parent’s house, and become independent. The motivation I have to do this is high, however, it really isn’t as easy as it sounds. In the midst of all of this, my parents thought that I should take my much younger brother up to my grandparent’s house for some time. At first, I didn’t want to. It felt like I would be wasting time with whatever I was doing to try to move out. But, in reality, I didn’t have much going on in my life, so I acquiesced.

As soon as I arrived (a few days ago), my body relaxed. My mind was able to do some mental yoga and relieve some stress, and my thoughts went from stressful, to mostly nothing at all. It’s fantastic. I’d like to clarify that thinking about nothing is great… For short periods of time. In fact, that’s a huge reason why I go to the gym! I don’t have to worry about all this nonsense that is typically going through my head besides how hard I’m breathing. (I am a terrible runner, so I breathe like a dying dog and am generally self-conscious about it!!)

Staying at my grandparents is like staying at a family-run resort that’s generally free. So why I didn’t really want to go in the first place almost confuses me now. It’s great. It’s what family should be for. This is truly my happy place.  Find your happy place!!

 

 

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Don’t Forget Your Camera

This silly little post is for those people out there who love to party! I guess. I should say that this post is for people who do fun things and always forget to take pictures of themselves and others.

Currently, I am the largest advocate that life shouldn’t pause for the perfect photo/video opportunity, but there is something special about a quick, even candid, picture. Throughout my years I have learned that technology is unreliable, so I’ve come into this habit of printing my pictures after every adventure. They really don’t cost too much. Then I buy a cheap album, and I’m done! Those photos will be around for as long as I am (hopefully). I keep backups on a USB, but there’s something wonderful about holding a real picture.

I used to always forget to snap a picture here and there, but I’ve become much better at this. It’s made my life so much better! There are even photobooks now! Yes, they can be expensive, but PRO TIP! Walgreens photo department almost always has VERY GOOD internet sales. All you do is create/order online and you can have the photos delivered or pick them up in store. It’s simply fantastic. I look through all my old albums and can remember most of them.

Happy photo printing!!

 

Are Political Parties Telling US How to Live???

What ever happened to when our representatives actually represented us? As far as I am concerned, they’ve turned politics into a personal business and instead of listening to what we would like to see happen, they do what benefits them, and then they tell us what is going on after the fact. The worst part? We listen. An example is a middle-class, normal Democrat being told to be pro-choice, even though they may not be? Why can’t a person believe in a small government and also be pro-choice? Why does the government have the ability to control what women do with their bodies, but also make profit off of it? Does that make sense? They only way it makes sense in my head is that politicians have abused their power and money. They tell US how to live, instead of the other way around.