When I began college, my first thought was: Thank goodness I am out of the house! For me, this grand idea of independent living was finally happening. I got my first dorm room, complete with first college roommate (I’ll save that story for later), and then I even began to collect a meager income with an on-campus job. It was a really good deal. Now, I could go on for ages with some of the stories I have, but the point I want to make today deals with what happens after college. Most students going into college think that by the end, they will have a place to go that isn’t their parents house. Some of them will. Most don’t.
Why didn’t anybody warn me of this? Does this make me a bad student? A terrible adult? Will I have to live here forever?
For my parents sake, I should say that, yes mom, I don’t mind it so much, but I am ready to be on my own! It’s so difficult to find a job, and I appreciate everything you do for me, but I am getting frustrated. I am used to making my own decisions about almost everything, and living at home is opposite to what I’ve been experiencing the past four years. This process is what I like to call, INTRODUCTION TO ADULTING. (Adulting is the act of becoming an adult.)
The moral of this ridiculous story is simple. There are two routes you can choose.
1. BE PREPARED DURING YOUR LAST SEMESTER/YEAR OF COLLEGE AND COME UP WITH A PLAN: What I am saying is if you don’t want to be stuck at home, work really hard during your last months in college and figure something out. There are ways to avoid being stuck home. I have a friend who went backpacking through Europe. I have another friend whose internship with the FBI during her junior year, led her to a job right after college. I have another friend who did a summer job in some other state, just because. So it’s possible.
2. GO HOME AND DEAL WITH IT: This is basically what I did. There are a few ways to take advantage of this. First, you can work while home and save up money to move out. Second, you can mooch off of your parents and apply for any job anywhere else. Third, you can renovate the space in your parent’s basement and never move away (just kidding…?).
If I did this all over again, I might be more willing to spend time and try option #1, but life is unpredictable and what’s important is that you make the most of every opportunity. The glass is always half full!
Me “adulting” in Washington D.C.